Check on Friends, Like You Check Social Media

Many people today use social media as a tool to stay connected and sometimes express their need for help. With the hectic pace of modern life, social media can be an effective way to check in on our “friends” who may be struggling.  

Notice what your friends are posting. Most posts are of our everyday lives: pictures of friends, food, or memes. However, sometimes people discuss personal topics and show signs that things are not going well. When you see something out of the norm for that person, there are things you can do to check up on them. Signs of emotional crisis or thoughts of suicide are not always obvious on social media. 

What to look for:  

• Fellow warriors may share that they are going through a challenging time and may mention feeling hopeless or ending their lives.   

• They may use dark humor that is out of the norm for them, posting memes, emojis, etc.  

• They may post something vague; some call it “vaguebooking,” which refers to posting something deliberately cryptic or vague.  

• They may post specific warning signs such as alcohol or firearms paired with thoughts of hopelessness. 

Pay Attention:  

• If concerned, reach out. You can post a message or give them a call.  

• Let them know you are there for them to listen and help in any way needed.  

• Listen to them, ask questions, practice active listening.   

If a Person Says They Are Thinking About Suicide:  

• Take the person seriously.   

• There are safeguards on many social media platforms to get help. 

• If at any point you or your friend need immediate help, call 988 and press 1 for the Military/Veteran’s Crisis Line or text 838255. Contacting an expert when in distress can make a huge difference.